My 87 year old mother-in-law is angry that we moved her into assisted living. How do we get her to understand that she needs 24/7 care?
My mother-in-law always insisted that she never wanted to live in a nursing home. As her mental and physical health declined we encouraged her to either move into assisted living or allow social services to provide in-home help. She refused to discuss either option. When she fell and was hospitalized, doctors recommended 24/7 care. We moved her into a rehab facility and then to assisted living. She went on a hunger strike and was hospitalized again and has now been moved into the memory unit. She says that she doesn't belong there and now she is willing to let someone stay with her at home. We think that once she's home, she will refuse the in-home care and we'll be in the same situation as before. Family visits are limited because she becomes upset when we refuse to take her home. Is there anything we can do to make her understand that assisted living is the best place for her now?