Mother is extremely paranoid. We know nothing of her wishes. When asked, she says it's none of our business. We don't know anything about her money, mortgage, monthly bills. She won't tell us anything. This isn't new - she's always been paranoid about everyone and everything. But dementia is gaining on her and my brother and I are very concerned. My brother and I, as well as our children want to help. She gets angry when anyone even mentions her age or refers to her as a senior citizen. We are truly at a loss as to what we can do.
She is still driving. She gets lost all the time yet somehow finds her way to our homes. We are walking on eggshells. She insists that someone is breaking into her home whenever she is not home. She sets booby traps all over to "catch them". Her home is not clean anywhere. There is is small pathway thru a few rooms. We have been told by APS that we have to wait for SOMETHING SIGNIFICANT to happen before we can do anything. Is this true?