If my father has dementia, am I financially responsible for him in a nursing home?

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What does that mean to be 'financially responsible' for your dad? Do you mean that, do you have the be the one paying for a nursing home, or are you talking about being the POA and paying his bills? I guess I don't understand the question.
My dad is in a nursing home and we are currently awaiting Medicaid's response to our filing. My father signed the financial agreement papers but the home is telling me I HAVE to sign them because he has dementia. I cannot be responsible for his financial expenses that he incurs (the daily rate for staying there) because I am not employed. My brother is POA but he also is not in a financial position to be committed to paying these expeneses.
You cannot be coerced into being financially responsible for his care. I am sometimes a "signer" for my Mom because it is hard for her to do so -but this does not make me financially responsible for anything.
I would always ask what you are signing and have the NH make it clear to you that they understand that you are not responsible for payment.
If you are not sure what you are signing, bring the papers to legal aid and have them look them over for you (there is no charge for their services.)
Thank you so much for your response. I am very concerned because they are harrassing me into signing the papers. I did read them and they told me someone HAS to sign them because they have to get paid. He still has insurance until the end of the month and Medicaid is pending because of a response. I have no idea what to do. I went to an Eldercare lawyer who told me not to sign anything but I am so worried about what they are going to do with my dad.
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...good advice about not signing ANYTHING (especially if you are feeling pressured)
It was my understanding that they cannot turn a patient out while they are waiting on a response from Medicaid.
If the floor staff is harrassing you, I would make an appt. with the chief administrator, calmly explain that you are doing everything in your power to help your father, and that you would appreciate their patience.
If they retaliate or become more aggressive, contact your state ombudsman or whomever handles these types of complaints in your area.
Good luck, you just do not need this extra pressure from anyone!!!
Thank you so much for your help; I sincerely appreciate it. I learned a few things from you that made me feel a little better.

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