Crossing boundaries. What do I do when my father wants me, his caregiver daughter, as a romantic replacement for his deceased wife, my mother?
My parents were very close - physically as well as emotionally. But since my mother has passed away (two years ago), I feel that my father would like to cuddle with me and kiss me to bring back memories of my mother. I am a married middle-aged woman (Dad is over 90) and this just totally upsets me. He has tried this four times now - always when we are alone. I do not go to see hime without my husband (Dad stll lives alone and is able to drive) but yesterday, he came to our home when I was alone. I have been very abrupt with him (and this bothers me as I always considered him as very kind and gentlemanly) but he just does not seem to get it. I know he is lonely but he refuses to move to a retirement facility. I do not want to tell anyone as it could ruin family relationships with him and with me - especially now since he is elderly and alone. What to do?