Has anyone participated in family mediation to delegate caregiving responsibilities with siblings and to at least agree on a decision model for care decisions? If so, did your elderly parent participate? If not, why not? If yes, was it hard on the person? The mediator I contacted (private mediator, nothing to do with a court) wants to include my mom, which I agreed with as she is cognitively aware and I did not want her to think it was being done behind her back. One sibling and my mother have agreed to participate but the sibling is afraid it will be too confrontational for my mother, which is not my intent. My other sibling refuses to participate. I don't want this to hurt my mother and I don't want it to be waste of money. The unwilling sibling has POA, and has not been participating in caregiving (she prefers to critique it). Any thoughts, wisdom or experience you can share on mediation?