Okay. i don't want to be a witch, but here it goes. my husband anf i live with my mother and i am her full time caregiver. we share bills and we buy most groceries. i do all housework. my problem isn't my siblings. they rarely visit. thsts a whole other issue. my problem is het grandkids. she has 7. including my 2 children. not bragging, just stating a fact, when my grown children visit they help pick up the house. they sometimes bring food with them. my nieces and nephews come over with their kids and trash the house and clean out the fridge and cupboards. i respect that this is their grandma's home. by all meansvisit. but thry do not seem to understand that things have changed. my mom cannot handle the amount of company that she used to. she sleeps much of the timr and is not well. they are very aware of this. most of the time they aren't even hete to see her. sometimes don't even go in her room to say hello. this is becoming a real problem. we live here. this is our home too. its like a revolving door here. i have to constantly clean up after them, watch their kids. they clean us out of food. its a nightmare. if she was living in my home, this wouldn't happen. it has to end. they are all adults with families now. they have to realize that this isn't the granny's house from when they were kids. i have enoygh stress as it is. i can't move out or even leave for the weekend. they don't offer to help my mom or give me a hand with her. as i am writing this, my nephew is here with his 3 kids. my mom is sleeping. he is over at the neighbors visiting. his kids are running through the house screaming. i have chosen to lock myself ib mt bedroom and let my husband deal with it. i will have to do clean up though. do i have a right to voice my opinion since its my moms hoyse? She is strange aboyt stuff luke that. she might get angry with me. but a part of me thinks that she needs to realuze that things have changed. she is 84 and in very pior health. she needs a caregiver and that is me. i can only take so much more of this! advice?