I am POA for Health and Finances for my Mother. If I say she can/can not do something can the facility over ride my decision?
Mother had a severe fall resulting in some brain damage. She is 87 so she also has some dementia. She was VERY weak due to the fall, she was sent home on Hospice but woke up! She is now in a Nursing Home getting therapy to gain strength etc.. She is still in a wheek chair and I have a sister who wants to take her out for dinner, nail appts etc... This sister does not live close to Mother nor does she know how/what is required to care for her. I as the POA stated on admission no one is to take her out on pass. I my self do take her out but I have also cared for her for years. I was out of town and Nursing home called me 3 times asking if sister could take her out, all 3 times I said no and they alllowed it anyway.The severe fall came from the same sister not assisting her out of the car which resulted in Mother falling and hitting her head on the concrete driveway. That in itself should show she doesnt know how to care for Mother. At 87 y/o she can not take the things she used to but sister doesnt understand.
Do I have any recourse against Facitily for allowing this or sister for doing so knowing those were the rules. It is getting to the point I am nearly will ing to turn POA over to sister and be done with fighting EVERYONE it seems. All I wanted was for Mother to be a little more proficient on walker before anyone else could take her out. Therapy still says she can only walk with them as she is still very unstable on her feet. Therapy even allowed her to fall 2 weeks ago with 2 therapis and a gatebelt on.... I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO !!!