Mom passed yesterday. All my friends are telling me they are sorry. what do you say to that ?
I wish Id had one of those close relationships with my mom like you see on tv. The kind where they sit around and chat about everything, and can tell each other anything. Instead my mother was vindictive and would hold things against you. We hadnt been close since i was a small child.
Her sister took it upon herself to take over . Acting like a saint, spending every day with Mom while she was in the nursing home. Ihave 2 kids and work full time. I thought she ws in the safest place, and couldnt hurt herself. but my aunt made it very clear that mom wanted to die at home. I was never ok with this. Had mom still been at home, my aunt wouldnt have been spending time with her, and Mom wouldve been at home, and my daughter wouldv been the one that found her after school.Instead, mom and my aunt had spent the day together, and my aunt as there when mom passed. Now my aunt and her friends believe she needs praise for the period of time that she actually did spend with mom. Im at a loss. not only is mom gone but now my aunt is bieng such a self serving witch that i dont want to speak to her at all. I sent her an email saying that i knew mom loved the time they spent together. I didnt mention the fact that when mom moved, i was disowned, and removed from the contact list at the NH... Im pretty sure my aunt fed into the dillusional thinking that id abandoned Mom, as she wouldnt even look at me when id go see her..
Im sure im rambling, and leaving out aolt of info, sorry, i had to let it out someplace.......