My FIL complains constantly that he does not feel well....." he is always tired, does not sleep well, is very weak, has troublle breathing, etc..."
He does have severe copd and is frail. I cook very nutritious meals ( he also complains that he needs (" more grease in his system",) always have snacks available, etc. He is an alcoholic and does not eat enough to keep his strength up. I suspect he has some malnutrition and vitamin defiencies as well, due to the alcoholism.
He still drives, so I cannot stop him from buying alcohol, but I know that most of his problems are due to drinking. He doesn't bathe nor change his clothes for weeks.
I know, due to his severe copd, he will get worse, but how do you deal with one who does not want to change their bad habits, in order to FEEL better? For example, when I suggest taking vitamis, he can't, due to his breathing (????)
If I suggest some stretching exercises, he's already done them, he can't take a bath due to the well water bothers his breathing. My husband broaches the subjects carefully ( when he starts to smell like urine), because if your direct with him, he is in complete denial.
We are both at our wits end.
How do you help someone, who believes they are in good health, but all they do is complain?