1967will Asked June 2010

What should I do about my 85-year-old mother refusing care and becoming emotionally and physically abusive?

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susanT8403 Jun 2010
You need to do the right thing for her safety and yours! call 911 and get her into a skilled facility who can handle your situation!!!!! its not fair for u to have to take all this on by yourself..........I know all about it, but remember u are doing whats best to keep her safe from herself and keeping yourself safe as well!
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While this might not be correct, but with your mother being 85 with a diagnosis as your profile states of profile states Alzheimer's / Dementia whom you are caring for at home, she could possibly be reaching the point where she is beyond your medical, emotional, etc. ability to take care for directly yourself at home.

I do hope you will contact the doctor today. I also hope if your mother's verbal and physical violence is making her to be a danger to herself or to you, etc. that you call the ER and tell them she's become dangerous to herself and or others.. They will know what to do from there. I say this out of concern for her care and your safety.

Her being a danger to herself and or others includes more than attempts or threaten to kill herself, burn the house down or attempt to kill you. It means she is a threat to herself and/or to others in terms of things like throwing furntiure at you, slapping you, beating on you, etc. or performing physical violence or threatening upon someone else in your home.
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LynnPO Jun 2010
Without knowing more about your Mom's situation - where she lives, medications, chronic conditions, it's hard to give much advice. But before assuming its Alzheimers or dementia have her checked for a UTI - urinary tract infection. These can case DRASTIC changes in our elders, especially if they are taking a lot of other drugs. It's easily diagnosed and easily fixed with antibiotics. Make a doctors appointment, tell her it's time for her regular check up - blood pressure, etc... tell the doctor's office IN ADVANCE about these changes in her behavior, ask them to run tests for anything they can think of.
Best of luck!
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hapfra Jun 2010
Well some good advice here--If possible, speak to her PCP or even better her neurologist about the situation-as there me be some way to control this type of behavior. Once an evaluation is made, you will know how to proceed. So the sooner this is done, the better off you will be.

Good luck!
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ibarro Jun 2010
well talk to her doctor and if you don't want/can't take care of her request help from socials services/doctor tell them to put her in a nursing home/assisting living facility or a homecare agency. any way she need medication to control her violent behavior tell dr. and ask for medication. tell doctor that she is refusing help.
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This sounds directly related to her Alzheimer's / Dementia and she probably needs an antipsychotic to calm her down. Have you taken her to the doctor lately? What do they say about her? If not, have you contacted her doctor about this behavior?

Is her verbal violence making statements that lead you to believe that she is a danger to herself and or others? If so, this is sufficient grounds for her to be involuntarily committeed to a hospital for a complete physiological and psychological evaluation. Does her physical violence make you feel that she is a danger to herself and or others such as yourself? Again, she qaulifies and needs to be picked up by medical folks to get her some serious help. You do not need to tollerate physical violence in your home nor verbal either.

I wish you well.
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