What do we do with a parent who believes we are poisioning her with doctor prescribed medicine?

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Talk with your doctor to make sure the medicine she is currently taking can be crushed up. If not ask if there is a comparable medication that can be crushed. Once you have handled that part crush up the medications in her food. For example a yogurt or pudding. Stay close by while she is having snack to make sure she eats it. This technique works great with someone with a form of dementia.
Great advise - especially with respect to not taking it personally and crushed up medications.

Another aspect might be to pay particular attention to what she watches on TV or, as a rule, watched for some time.

My late Step Father was a retired military and civil policeman. He CONSTANTLY watched COPS, NCIS, et al, et al, et al. From six in the morning until nine at night. My Mom, of course, couldn't differentiate between fact, fiction, TV, old or new. Many, many times she'd awaken in the middle of the night because she had to 'save' so and so from this or that.

Also noted on my WebSite on how to help such matters is an understanding about her fear of being poisoned... due to the same considerations referred to above relative to TV shows.

The old style uplifting 'cartoon' style shows and other absolutely non violent TV shows are the only TV I began to allow her to watch. Mostly, I'd transfer her affections toward music, relaxing outside, drives in the country, etc.

I hope this has helped you.

If you pick up the meds gently remove those stickers on the side of those bottles and put them in a journal with the medicine's information...this way she will not read those and make far fetched notions out of them. Everything practically has side effects if you look them up on the web even Tylenol.
My Mom, who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, had a problem with every medication the doctors prescribed for her. She would read the side effects of the medication and then believed they would happen to her. She refused her meds, became hostile and was sure "we were out to get her". My sisters and I tried to help Mom with her finances. She was not paying her bills and when we tried to balance her checkbook, she thought we were stealing money from her. Have you had her doctor check for the signs of dementia or Alzheimer's? I always thought Mom was mentally ill, but she had early on set Alzheimer's when she was in her late 60's. I wish you the best for you and your Mom.
I got your problem. I have gone through it with my own mother. I find that just letting the moment pass, and then try again later helps. I also decided to talk to the doctor about the "critical" medicines and try to get mother to take them.
Though hard to do, don't take it personally, I don't think they see the world clearly.
The above answers were great idea's

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