He is an old 67 with numerous health problems. Me being a woman and him male well this is awkward getting him to shower at least every other day. Ive threatened him with the idea of a male nurse coming in and washing his hair and private parts . He wasnt too keen on the idea. It worked for a couple of days and that was it. On top of it hes a smoker which can really permiate his clothes and stink horribly. He cant smoke inside so he goes outside with the coat on comes inside never takes it off and sometimes sleeps in it. It breaks my heart to see him like this. Ive told him how it hurts me to see him not care how he smells or looks. He has taken anti depressants in the past but it didnt change anythin. how can I encourage him to take some pride in his apppearance?