My Mom 89, has lived with husband and me for 2 yrs. We have been unemployed for the past 10 months and very near out of safvings, but husband may be offered a job (fingers crossed) next week. if he gets it we will have to move.
A preliminary search shows that the rental house market is tight and pricey - to get a comparable home to the one we have here, and in a similar-type neighborhood, is going to cost about $1000 more per month than what we spend now.
An apartment is more affordable but out of the question - not big enough enough to give us any space away from Mom, and Moms ALZ, and the sometimes incessant yelling at all hours is not suitable for apartment living.
Here we have a 3 story home an she has an in-law suite on the LL, while we spend most of our time on the top.
So - do we sacrifice our standard of living so Mom doesn't have to contribute to the cost - or do we go with the type of place we are used to and have always lived in (husband is a upper level manager) and make her pay the difference?
I have two nasty brothers who never visit OR call but i am sure I will have to account to them when all this is over. I am an honest, ethical person and don't even want the appearance of doing anything 'wrong'.