What can I do when my mother-in-law needs help but refuses it?
My husband's mother has mid-stage dementia. a neurologist that first diagnosed it told my sister-in-law that with the type of dementia that she has, she will not know that anything is wrong with her. Well, this fact has come back to haunt us! She really is not aware. She THINKS that she is cooking, cleaning, bathing, etc. The reality is that the family is doing ALL of this for her.
Now, here's the biggest problem: my mother-in-law lives alone, in the condo that she and my father-in-law bought before he passed away. We have tried to bring in help for her - she threw an absolute fit in front of the nurse that had come to assess her, so that idea was tabled. Things continued to progress, so my husband and his sister tried to convince her to move into an assisted living apartment so that people would be around to at least help when needed. AGAIN, she threw an absolute fit and refused to even consider it!
My question is: has anyone else dealt with this kind of problem and been able to get the person to move or at least allow a homecare-giver to come in?? If so, what worked for you? Any ideas would be GREATLY appreciated!