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How would moving her to a retirement home help? All prevention is what to do after the fall, i.e., call 911. She doesn't use her walker at home consistently, doesn't carry the cordless phone or cell at all times, gets in shower when alone even though we have someone who can be there. I work full time and my home has stairs, one bath upstairs, etc., dogs. If I move her to a retirement community how will they keep her from falling in the hall while talking to someone?

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It might be worth having a med review done, because as a person ages drugs are not metabolized as well which can cause side effects such as dizziness or unsteadiness. Good luck.
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Terry, If your mother is falling frequently and you feel she has to go to a nursing home; try explaining to her that you cannot any longer care for her as she is falling too much and a nursing home would be safer. Tell her you are unable to be helping her get up after she falls. I could not lift my mother off the floor and had to call someone for help.

You say she is acting child=like so this probably is indicative of dementia starting. I would start researching and visiting facilities and then talk to your mother about it. My mother is in a lovely facility with plenty of activities and entertainment, etc. If you need more info, I would be happy to provide it to you.
Good luck and blessings to you and take care.
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First to Dalewis - my mother was constantly falling at home for various reasons; some of which were fake and attention getting from what we found out. That said, if you mother will not use a walker consistently or a cane and obviously has balance problems, etc. then it is time to make a move. I lost count of the times my mother fell and would never listen to anyone about what she was supposed to do to keep from falling such as the walker, etc. My father lived with her at the time and said she was reckless. Well, that reckless, nobody is telling me what to do attitude landed her in the hospital then nursing home.

Her doctor was getting frustrated with her falling, going to the hospital then having him send her to rehab. If they won't help themselves, then the staff at the facility will make sure they do; at least in a nursing home, from my experience. This being stubborn mentality gets old especially when we have to pick up the pieces constantly from their bad decisions which are based on non-compliance to doctors orders. My mother eventually suffered a blood clot on her brain from all the falls, which she miraculously recovered from, only to go back home and not follow doctors orders. There is only so much you can do.
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how can i tell my mom that i need to move her to a nursing home
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I am 60 and am raising two children, my 81 year old mother falls and is like a child, how do I tell her she is moving to a nursing home
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You really can only do so much and I mean everything. Tape carpets remove scatter rugs, insist on safer routines etc. but it is no guarantee you can't make anyone do anything. my grandmother furniture walked for years denying she needed any kind of help. If she will not be safe on her own then she can not BE on her own, remind her that you love her and do not wish to see her harmed and try to get her to see the facts of the situation, Get assistance if you need it. My grandparents would really only listen to doctors, their grown children telling them something was unsafe or not a good idea held very little weight with them...Good Luck!
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If she is in AL they will probably watch her but she may need placement in a nursing home -I had to call 911 over 40 times and they did not mind picking him up but in another county -the next one from us after 3 calls they would investigate the home and believe me you do not want APS visiting you-I was reported by a nurse from home care who just did not want to have to come to our home and it was unfounded but caused a lot of anxiety, In a nursing home they will insist on her using assitive devices like walkers and cans in assisted living it depends the care can be anywhere from great to looking in once in 24 hrs.
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