My mother moved in about 3yrs. ago with us. She does absulutly nothing all day but sit in a chair and read or watch tv. It drives me nuts! She is very capable of doing most anything. My husband, son and I all work, plus rehab houses. In other words we are very busy 7 days a week. There is not even a offer to make a meal, clean the kitchen, or ask if there is something she can do to help.
We don't expect her to be a maid. But get off her butt. The more she sits, the more health issues she has. She has diabetes so being sedimentary is not good. Doesn't walk coz it hurts, doesn't excerise coz out of breath, doesn't watch diet coz it's not enough food to eat healthy. Just sit and do nothing!! The result is I am resentful and crabby most days. I want my home and life back!