How do I broach the topic of assisted living with a parent who is paranoid and afraid of hospitals and doctors?
My dad is 82 yrs old, and always independent. He was displaying some behavior out of character for about 6 wks, ( strange comments, paranoia, anxiety), and he wasn't feeling well. After begging him to seek medical help ( he has not been to a doctor in 13 yrs, and never was in a hospital), he finally agreed, whereby he was diagnosed with atrial fibulation. He was put into the hospital, where he went through a difficult time of fear, and constant fright. ( I was told psychosis is common with A-fib; also the fact he was in the hospital for the first time). Add to that, doctors saw a small stroke has occurred at some point, not recent.
Now that he is back home, he refuses to see the visiting nurse, refuses follow up care, and is combative about his meds. He's awake round the clock, wants to do home repairs, to drive...I can't seem to calm him down, and if I mention 'doctor' or blood test, he gets upset, and begins screaming.
This morning, in one of his fits, he raised his hand to me.
Im at a loss here, because there is no way I can control him long term, nor can I afford to have round the clock care. He will not go to any facility willingly. I already know this, because of his paranoia. ( he calls hospitals 'prison').
Im all alone in this. Does anyone have any suggestions?