When to determine your parent can't live alone any longer?
My mother is 84 and lives alone. She has alienated herself from her family as she is a very difficult person to deal with. She has unofficially diagnoses as a narcisstic, borderline personality, so not an easy person to have as a parent. She accuses her family of stealing from her, is ungrateful and all she does is complain and talk about who is doing what to her and poor me, so no one wants to have a relationship with her including me, but I care about her well being and want to ensure she is safe, but she makes it difficult to help her. I don't feel she should live alone and should go into an assisted living, but she will not go willingly. I don't want to be put in a position to have her forcefully removed from her home. Is is left to the family member to decide this or can an outside party determine it is not suitable for her to live alone? She also has two dogs and two cats which she loves and won't part with. Not an easy situation to deal with for sure. Not sure where to turn or what to do.