Mom is depressed and just lays around all day. What should I do?
Mother is 83 lives alone in a big home. Has a dog. She is very frail,has bad feet,bunions,calluses,corns,etc. She has a deformed right leg(from childhood)which is always bent.She walks hunched over.She has copd.Diabetic.She is extremely hard headed & overdoses on otc meds(sleeping pills,nyquill,etc). She has forever taken xanax also. I told her she is a drug addict. Her whole day consists of laying on the couch or sitting in a rocker. Wont watch tv,wont go out,just complains over & over or sits around bawling all day. When you ask what's wrong now she just lets me have it! I go there every day for 2-3 hours,clean,wash dishes,vacuum,mop,walk the dog,make meals,get the mail,pull weeds,you get the drift. No matter what I do she is always down & depressed says she just wants to die. She uses a walker,wheelchair,cane & anything else for support but just sits all day! I've been to her docs & specialists & they can do so much. I think she needs a psychiatrist. I really do. She's always tired & wont discuss al or health aide cuz she says she cant afford it. She is on medicare & ssi. I dont have any funds to help pay for anybody either. So what should I do? Im in Florida. Should I contact the Counsel on Aging down here(st lucie county). Can they help? I do not live with her. She doesnt drive.She just seems to have given up on life & wants to take me with her. Also when I suggest getting outside help she tells me "why? youre around". Ive been doing this for 8 yrs & Im very burned out! Also I dont drive either! I dont know what to do. It is very rough on me. Oh and I live alone also(which I love). Yesterday I just blew up on her because of her lies. Any suggestions out there?