ladywellness Asked December 2011

Does my mom have any rights after the court gets involved and she now has dementia?

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My mom has dementia since June. She didn't want anything to do with her kids for 7 years. They did some bad things to her that caused her to loose her home and loose her marriage to my father of 45 years. (my father not theirs)They also had me loose my home where my mom lived after she lost her home. They have stolen from her at my eviction. They moved her things outside to get wet and was laughing about it. My mom was in shock to watch what her own kids were doing to her. My mom and I put all our things into storage which we have shared for 7 years. Her name is on it and she paid most of it as that is what she wanted and what we agreed on. She also wanted to live with my daughters and I. We have been together for 7 years. I have been taking care of her. Her kids found out where we were and came into the house and took her by force without me knowing. Now it is going to court and the court ordered a guardian ad litem. The court allowed her to stay with one of her granddaughters she hardly knew and before she got dementia didn't want anything to do with either. Now my moms dementia got worst since she was kidnapped. The court won't let her come back to me because her kids again made up lies so the court is going to put her into a home. Something she never wanted. My mom gets $4,000 a month. The guardian wants to sell everything of my moms in the storage, including all my things. The guardian says if there are receipts from the past to show my mom bought things for us as gifts we have to give back so the guardian can sell it. I am not allowed to go in and get any of my belongings. Because her kids say there is nothing in the storage that is mine. Therefore I have to prove with receipts. Who keeps receipts for everything they buy all their life? I know for a fact that my mom would not want her things sold, strangers going through her things or her kids having any of her things. This is such a violation of privacy to have strangers go through her things and private papers. Where are her rights? My mom made me promise her that I would promise to keep her kids out of her life. She did not want them to do the samething they did to my father when he was having mental issues after an accident. My father has always hated her kids since the time they got married in 1960. They all left home in their teens to get away from him. My father didn't want them around his home. But would allowed it sometimes for my mom. After his accident my father snapped and assaulted my mom and went to jail. Her kids got ahold of him and brainwashed him into doing things he would have never done. His own doctor told us he could have been brainwashed since he was having mental issues. My father never believed in divorce or creamation. My mom;s kids made my father loose his home to foreclosure, convinced him to divorce my mom who he loved, disowned his only daughter who he has always cherished and his only granddaughters who he loved very much. My father and I were very close. They had him put his cars in their names and change his will so they get everything of his. When he died they took everything from him and they had him creamated(which he was against) Now with him gone they are working on my mom to do the samething. This was the reason she wanted nothing to do with her kids. She has told many people about what her kids did to her. Now again she is going to loose everyhting just like my father. I have no money to even hire an attorney for her. The guardian is on her kid's side. Doesnt' my mom have any rights even though she has dementia?

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paula1258 Jan 2012
call the ault protective services in your county i had a simular situation with my mom my mother lived with my nephew after my brother died, my nephew took her money he neglected her he left her alone for 7 days she fell down a flight of steps at home my neigber reported my nephew for negeclt finanacally explotation adult protective services came in the pic i took my mom out of a bad situation i was her durabe and power of attorney.. my lovley nephew sold her house took all the money from her she had this house for over 40 years he gotr away with alot of stuff . i took my mom out to live with me he didnt want ot be bother by taking care of my mom. adult protective services helped out alot you need to call them talk to the about your situation before it really gets worce my mom was alsos abuse by nephew he got away with alot of stuff . more important you have take her pout of that situation befroe it gets worce. for 2 yrs i had my mom live with me she passed away last year from the last stages of demetia at 91. i wish you all the luck in the world let me know how you did with aps. they will help you investigate every thing.
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Definitely call elder abuse! They will step in & listen to you.
They will have more resources for you. Elder abuse is about protecting the elder. From the info you provided above, I can't imagine them not being on your side (and your mother's of course). I too will keep you in my prayers!

My husband & I are going through the same type of problems right now. He has a sister that has stolen thousands & thousands of dollars from my mother in law who has Alzheimer's. Without getting into details right now (cuz I will be typing forever) it is such a headache and a big shame! We are her fulltime caregivers giving her THE BEST CARE EVER & have to deal with all this B.S. caused by his sister. All I can say is....I am leaving this up to God & trusting he will guide us in the right direction. Have Faith God will "fix" this for you! God Bless :)
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ejbunicorn Jan 2012
ok, first off if you had power of attorney and she had been diagased with dementia then she cannot revoke the power of attorney, call elder abuse services, explain your situation and they should be able to help you get her back and even file abuse charges against her other children, if you cannot afford an attorney, I am sure you can find one either pro bono or one that you would pay if they won your case, I will keep you in my prayers, make sure you call adult elder abuse services, look it up on the computer for your state, hugs,
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I had power of attorney but when they kidnapped her they had her revoked it the next day. She gave it to me so her kids can't touch her or her things. It is so hard to fight what is right when you don't have the money. I guess justic is for people with the money. I really feel for my mom she would just die if she only knew she is with the people who caused her so much pain. Thank you for your answer.
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Here4her Dec 2011
Do you have a durable POA? If they are going for guardianship, probably not.
I feel so bad for you. You need a good attorney...I know ($) THose guardian ad litem's can be a real a$$. My daughter had to deal with one when her dad had brain damage for car accident. Problem with the court is they don't know the situation, the sometime believe the "wonderful liars".
Is your mom able enough to say she wants to be with you?

I hope an attorney on this site sees this and can help you.....
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