Mom is 92 and in the early stages of multi infarct dementia, blind in one eye, almost blind in the second, can barely hear with a hearing aide. Terrible balance and always a fall risk. Before she started getting confused, she repeatedly told me she was tired of living like this and was ready to die. She lives with me and I have her on a 3 small meals with Ensure 3x/day to maintain weight (99 lbs). She was recently in respite care for one week and lost 5 lbs because they didn't "encourage" eating and let her refuse the Ensure. My sister is telling me I shouldn't pressure Mom to eat, that if she wants to die I should just let her eat as little as she likes and "let go". Can one do this? Should I see her doctor for advice? If the dr says it's OK for Mom to choose not to eat much, should I think about hospice? What are the legal (as in Adult protective services) implications of letting her starve herself? Has anyone been in this situation? Help!