Hi. Okay so last time I asked about assisted living discussions. That didn't go well at all. Mom doesn't think she's ready. (I am). Okay so now I'm looking at in home help for her as I work all day long and my husband who's home with her is not able to care for her due to handicaps. My daughter has been watching mom but she's having a baby any day now.
So, I brought up having someone come in 2x a week to help her with anything she needs. First she said yes that's fine. Now she says she cannot afford that. (she can but has all money in savings for whatever she might need years from now) she's 86! Will not spend the money for home health and so, we are back where we started. Her mind is going quickly lately. She crys anytime I bring up help or assisted living saying that I am the only one she has! I know that but it's killing me. I have a brother who ignores mom and lives 1/2 the country away. Mom tells me to go out with my husband but when I do, she lays the guilt trip on me later and says she would have liked to go also. I'm lost. I'm depressed, lost, at wits end and feeling oh so guilty even thinking about a nursing home or assisted living. HELP. I adore mom but she's making me crazy and destroying the family without even knowing it.