How do I deal with my elder mom being abusive with my Alzheimer's dad?
My mom is suffering from extreme sleep deprivation, has had seveal mini strokes and is in denial about my dad's condition. The way she cares for him, I know she still loves him. I send my dad to senior day-care twice a week, have in-home care, have a family counselor come to the house once a week, send my mom to a psychiatrist and take care of my dad myself 90% of the time. However, my parents do have to interact since we are all living together (I moved home to care for both of them). He has the cognitive problems that come with Alzheimers and severe incontinence (for which I've also gotten a plethora of help aids: diapers, catheters etc.). My mom literally screams at him when he has "accidents" overnight or can't feed himself right -- everything bothers her. And when he can't cooperate the way she thinks he should, she hits him and when I intervene, she hits me. How do I keep my family together, try to enjoy what little time we have left and help both of them at the same time -- she won't listen to me or the family counselor and I know because she's sleep deprived despite a plethora of meds for her sleep deprevation and depression -- I'm at the end of solutions -- any suggestions?