My dad has always been a complainer. For the last 8 years he has told me daily that he is dieing. Whenever he had any pain it was always the worse pain possible. Now he has stage IV colon cancer and the chances that he will die soon are very real. His constant complaints put me in a perpetual fear that he is dieing. I am constantly taking him to the doctor or the hospital for his aliments. So far his cancer has not grown and the pains he suffers are typical pains of aging and immobility. He recently fell and hurt himself so now he spends most of his days in bed. His pain started in his hip and now the pain has moved to his knees. I just don't understand this pain because tomorrow it may be in his back or foot or anywhere else. I don't know how to help him.
To further add to my stress when he finally decides to sit with us in the family room . He sits and chants "Oh my god". The stress of caring for him and constantly worrying that he is in pain/dieing is too much for me. I have spoken to him and asked him not to chant but it doesn't help. I have also asked him to only tell me he is in sever pain when it is truly bad because otherwise I won't know what to do.
He also says he does not sleep at all at night. I don't want to give him sleep meds because it causes confusion and I think he must exaggerate when he says he doesn't sleep at all because when I check on him he is always sleeping.
His constant complaints are wearing on me to the point that I've had to start taking anti-depressants. I just don't know how to cope.