We have confided in our daughters...44 and 36...about our frustrations living here with my mother. Now, they are mad at me for keeping their dad in this situation. They want us to move out and put mother in a nursing home or assisted living. Mother is hard to live with, rude and irritable to me, but seems to know not to do that to my husband. Anyway, we got emails last night from both daughters telling us how selfish I was keeping their dad here, that it was my mother and me against Dad and the rest of the family, and that they were distancing themselves from me. And, there was more. We've always has a good relationship with our daughters, but those two emails drew a line. I haven't responded because my husband is thinking what he is going to say to them. He said that what hurts me hurts him because when we married we became one. Now, we have a new stress to think about. We might just pack up and move to Colorado and forget to give anyone our address!!!