They have been married 50+ yrs. Dad (a great provider) has declined a lot in the last few yrs (growing dementia) while Mom is active as a 50 yr old/ is very vain. She recently told us that she has not really loved Dad for yrs. Both parents have told us that their plans are their business. Dad will be crushed by Mom not moving with him. She claims she will visit him occasionally. Both are entitled to happiness/good quality care. Would appreciate any suggestions from others who may have had similar experience w/their parents in this 'ugly' situation. Dad refuses to give up pwr of attorney. THANKS in advance!!!!!!!