Is it common for Dad to be obsessed with dates, times, appointments, etc?

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My dad is obsessed with his calendar and calls constantly about events that are to happen. Should I not tell him of upcoming events?

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Different patients have different obsessions. For some it is groceries. For others it is Kleenex. The most annoying are those who focus on their own health issues and think they are dying every other minute. Obviously Dad is an organized thinker and struggles to remain so. Encourage him on the first call, but then ignore the phone after that.
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Yes it is common.. He realizes he is becoming forgetful and anxious that he will forget his appts..

My Mom works herself into a frenzy hours before she needs to leave the house, I have stopped telling her about upcoming events and appts.. She lives with me so I can let her know that day and make sure I give her sufficient time to get ready.
Why don't you try writing down the appointments on a huge calendar? I do this so my husband knows what is happening every day and in the week. Then when he forgets and asks me, I say, "Check the calendar".
My husband thinks he will not live out the week - every week - and hopes it will be true.
If I tell him that we have a lunch date with one of the children, in two days, he begins to lay out his shirt and asks if his pants are OK for this date. I also do not inform him until about three hours before the due time of the lunch date..
It must be pretty common for these afflicted folks..I like the calendar idea - will try that!
Yes, those are very common obsessions.
Yes, very common. OCD. Two of your earlier responders said write it on a big calendar or just don't tell him.

I have now had two years of experience with a 95 year old mother who has very mild dementia. I just don't tell her. She would just drive me crazy prior to any appointment. It took a while to figure it out, but I do not tell her anything in advance.

Good luck!
My father does this too. Has even laid awake all night before someone is coming the next morning to pick him up for church as he is afraid he won't get up in time--even when I'm the one who always wakes him up!! He constantly asks when he us going someplace, or when someone is coming. His latest obsession ( it changes every week) is asking over and over about going to the local college so he can sign up for a certificate course on fetal alcohol syndrome ... a course that he couldn't possibly take since he barely can comprehend anything he is reading. The good news is that now he is obsessed about wanting to go into an assisted living place when a month before he adamantly refused. So he has finally come to terms (on some level) that he needs help on a level that we can't provide; specifically, that he needs socialization.,

Anyway, the calendar idea is good. I do that. Even better is to write upcoming events on a whiteboard, then just say look at the board AND the calendar. I also try not to tell him in advance about upcoming events or I will be asked about it all week or weeks...over and over and over. HIQEVER, sometimes I do want to tell him in advance IF the particular event is hinging on hope--meaning it is an appointment that will actually allay his considerable anxiety over something he is afraid will or won't happen.

Hope this helps!
Sorry for typos in my last post...wrote this on my iPhone so easy to screw up!
I have found out that it best not to give too much information it cause them to repeatably think about important issue. Wait until about a hour before you go that enough time for them to deal with issue. then it will soon be over and done. You can't dump lots of things on them or you will be explaining and answering question over and over.
last night I told my 83 year old husband ( mod ALZ ) that our SIL was coming by in the am, he went off the wall, I used to be able to tell him 2 days before, but after that reaction I will wait till the day of. In my case, forget the calendar, they cannot relate to time & space, my husband can not answer what date, day, or year it is, let alone have him check the calendar - it's Greek to him. Just bought him a new watch with a large digital display as the hands on his watch became a real obsession with him, he could not figure out the time anymore. Even with the digital I know he is only reading me the time, it does make him proud, but he does not understand it. I would suggest just not giving your a Dad any information that will cause a frenzy. Calm is good

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