My father has 2 homes, one in FL and one in NC. NC is where he grew up and all of his things are located there. His ex-wife lives in his house in FL and he is currently staying there. My dad won't give me a lot of information on his condition but I do know that his cancer has metastasized. I flew into town recently without warning him and he looked to be in poor condition, couldn't get out of bed, didn't eat, and was on pain medication. He wanted me to leave, at one point started crying, and told me he didn't want me to see him like that. Unfortunately, I thought it best to respect his wishes at the time and I left town. Since then I have called the ex-wife, trying to get information. I have called several times and she won't call me back.
I and his sisters in NC really want him to be up there because we don't know what is really going on and we are afraid that his ex-wife will not tell us if he is hospitalized. We are so afraid that she would do something out of spite and we may never know if he becomes incapacitated or worse. Is there any legal recourse we could take to get him to where people care about him?
He has a legal will and has left nothing to his ex-wife, so there is no loving attachment to her. She just lives in his house and I'm so afraid for his well-being, as she has been known to be abusive. What can we do?