I'm getting depressed caring for my dad and find myself spending more time at home. How can I take care of myself to better care for him?
He always looks for sympathy from people and mopes about. He is very capable for looking after himself even still driving and going out but now is getting thinner and cuts his portion of food into a tiny bit. He likes cooking the dinner when I visit and is very able to prepare a good meal but has always been one to run to the doctor with the tiniest thing. My mum gave him an awful lot of attention and now she isn't there and he is looking for it from anyone he can get it from. It's embarrassing and annoying and is making me feel really depressed and guilty. I challenged him about it and suggested he was trying to make me worry which was horrible and then I went home after intending to stay over. My plan is not to stay over any more and just visit a few times a week. He refuses help from social work or anyone in the way of day centres, art groups etc. If he goes to the nurse to get a plaster changed he never stops talking about the nurse! He just loves attention but isn't interested in anyone else. He probably has Asperger syndrome (undiagnosed) since I have it which could explain not being interested in anyone else. Any hints on what I should do would be grately appreciated.