I am facing major caregiver burnout. What should I do?
I am a 50 something male who was forced to move back home with my 83 year old mother about 3 years ago. She underwent knee surgery that got infected and was forced to recoup in a nursing home for over a year. When she finally returned home she was suffering from dementia, bordering on Alzheimers. We have never got along, and now I am forced to be the primary caregiver. I have a sister who is a RN, whom also works at the local nursing home who does contribute to Mom's care, but she has not been stopping by Mom's place that much since Mom has returned from the nursing home. We did hire a professional caregiver, but she only come 2-3 times per week for 2 hours a day. After 3 months of this, I am ready to have nervous breakdown. My personal situation is not good anyhow, and now I am facing bouts of depression, I'm gaining weight, I'm very angry, and I just feel at times like checking out. And to top it all off, neither my sister nor my Mom feel that I contribute much. I have chronic migraines, hypertension and periodic depression, all of which I take medication for. The situation I am in is exacerbating all of those conditions.