My mother is 93 and has a personality disorder and some dementia. She had emergency surgery to remove a tumor in her bowel and now she is in a rehab center. Her doctor says she will be moved to a nursing home for 3 weeks after her rehab. She will heal up in the nursing home and then undergo another surgery to reconnect her bowel so she doesn't have an ostemy bag.
Today I took her some clothes and asked the staff a lot of questions. Why is she still on a Foley (catheter)? Did they start teaching her how to empty her ostemy bag herself. Why were they typing her blood? Was she going to get a transfusion? If so why? Why were her underpants on her pillow. What was in the boxes on the tray table? Where was her schedule for her rehab work?
Five young people gathered around me and none knew the answers to any of my questions.
The lab tech who was taking blood fled as soon as I started asking my questions.
The LPN got the schedule and flipped it around in his hands until my mother told him to stop. He continued doing it to annoy her. I grabbed it from him and put it on the door where it's supposed to be. I asked him to empty my mother's bag and he told me to do it that I had to learn.
The case manager didn't have any answers to my questions and said she was responsible for my mother's dismissal. I said fine come back when my mother gets dismissed. She stormed out of the room in a huff.
The tech said she worked for a service and didn't know anything.
The OT person told me my mother had a head injury. When I asked how that happened and who diagnosed it no one knew. Then she said my mother has brain damage. She was about the goofiest one. She kept asking me all kinds of personal questions. Did I love my mother? Did I work outside the home?
I fled the place with the OT girl right behind me. I wouldn't answer her questions.
When I got home I had my mother's doctor paged and she called me back right a way. It turns out the head injury is dementia. I suggested my mother be moved to a nursing home right a way but the doctor said no she has to stay in the rehab center.
I'm afraid to go back with all those aggressive people. I think I will try to visit my mother after they go home at 5:00 p.m.
I'm not sure what I'm dealing with at the rehab? Is this some kind of Medicare scam? No one seems in charge. And they are all so young and don't seem to be able to deal with old people -- me as well as my mother.
Is there an omnibus person I can call to negotiate with the facility on my mother's behalf? I know there is one for nursing homes.
What a squirrel cage!