How do I convince my elderly mom it is time to move in with me? She resists then agrees.
She 'appears' to have it altogether, she drives, handles bills (but not too good and she's late paying), sweet but you can't discuss changing her way of life then she gets aggressive, cries, fights and later forgets any of it happened! Watching her decline has taken a toll on me. I love her so much but do not know how to handle this. I can't force her to move or can I? She is 86 years old, lives alone (and loves it that way), and is in a state of denial because she 'thinks' she is handling things and doesn't need anyone, especially me, telling her what to do. She thinks I'm 'fussing' at her all the time but I'm not. When I visit her, I see signs of hoarding, she doesn't keep her self up, she buys too much food and forgets she did. She thinks she is handling her business but she is not..totally. I mean she handles some of it but gets behind, gets tired and things go lacking. Other people have taken advantage of her too but she does not think so. As she states, I do these things because I want to. I believe she has early signs of dementia and I need help. Thank you.