How do I convince my mom she needs full-time help?
Mom is a dialysis patient, has severe limited mobility and suffers from depression since Dad died almost two years ago. I reluctantly told her she could move to my house but only if she hires full time help in my home also. She won't do and chooses to live on her own. I work full time. I have one brother who can't help because he lives too far away, in his opinion (geographically he is only about 45 minutes away). He just leaves it all to me and my husband. She won't spend her $$, she feels that she may "need" it in the future. As far as I'm concerned the future is here. She's hired a woman for approx. 8 hours a week to clean for her and to take her to the occasional doctor's appointment. This is my mom's solution to getting help. I have been to the ER with her 4 times in the space of the last 10 weeks. I am always waiting for the shoe to drop. I feel that it's probably only a matter of time before I get another call from the police, one of her neighbors or her life alert company. Any thoughts, help, suggestions?