My mom lives alone and has totaled 2 cars within 7 months of each other so she's not driving anymore. 2 years ago I wouldn't take her to get another car because both accidents were her fault and very serious. She's hard of hearing and her reaction time is very slow even though she's only 79. She moves like she's 90. She is also getting very forgetful and doesn't remember what street we're on sometimes. I've been taking her to all of her doctors appointments, shopping, errands, picking up prescriptions, taking her for her weekly hair appointments, etc. I am a full time student and have 2 daughters and a husband. My husband owns his own business and my kids play sports and take music lessons. My studies are difficult and take up most of my free time. I have tried to ask her to use a service to help out at least few times a month with some of these errands for when I can't get to it. She refuses even though she has plenty of money. When I asked her why, she simply said because I don't want to or I don't want to spend the money. I've tried to explain to her that I can't do all of it. There have been times where I wasn't able to get to her for a week and she'd rather have no food in the house and starve then pay for someone to help out. I cannot afford to pay for it because I lost my job last year....The reason I'm back in school. She doesn't have any major health issues but is very stubborn and difficult to deal with. In addition to being very selfish. Often times, she asks for things that are so inconvenient and out of the way and I'm not sure why she does it. I've tried everything to pointing out the benefits to her....to telling her how stressed out I am trying to have enough time for everything. My house hasn't been fully cleaned in a month. I even mentioned looking into assisted living so she could have a social life and be taken care of. She turned it down flat out. Wouldn't even research it. Had one reason after another why she didn't want to even look. I'm stressed out and feel guilty when I have to tell her no. She has no friends because she refused to go to a senior center for social activities. She says she's happy with where she is living and being alone, but yet complains to everyone she sees how I won't let her drive and she's stuck in the house all the time. She complains about how bad it is for her to have to depend on me to take her places. I think she's being difficult because she blames me for taking her car away and feels that I should shoulder the responsibility. One time I got so upset with her that I told her to just go and get a car. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!