well its been almost a year since my mom moved in with my husband and I. I still have no contact from my siblings nor has my mom. my mom health has improved some and she now goes to an adult day care 3 days a week. now that the holidays are over and here in northeast ohio the weather is very cold and snowy. She just wants to sleep her days away and now gives me a hard time going to day care. she just heard my older brother remarried and rushed home to tell me. thought i would be interested. nothing is more further from the truth. these people walked away from my mom in april of 2008 and haven't spoken to her since. they sent to very terrible letters to me accusing me of all sorts of things. mostly of being a thief . what can i steal she moved into my home and has ss of $800 a month and absolutely no savings. my brothers wife works at a salon next to the day care and came in to get one of the clients and saw my mom there thats how she found out about my brother. my family has never called her and we installed a phone line for her but she never used it so we had it removed recently. no point in having 2 phone lines in a small 3 bedroom ranch. my health has not been good recently. i have an upper respiratory. so i don't know about all these emotions. i love my mom and she really is trying to meet me half way. but the days when its all about her are coming more frequently now. i am feeling more trapped and bitter towards my siblings. what is it about bringing a parent into your home to live that others can't deal with. why do parents think the caregiver can just sweep this time under the rug with no help from family? i said to my mom she can do what ever is right for her but for now i want nothing to do with them. I have become quite comfortable just having my children,grandchildren, husband and i taking care of mom. i know i send mixed emotions here i really don't mean too but its 5am and i havent slept all night. quilt is terrible. i must add my mom has a home health aid that comes 4 days a week she could get more but doesn't want it. it isn't that i don't have any help i just can't come and go like i used to. please forgive me its just hard.