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I have moved here to take care of my mother with advanced dementia. I do have her going to respite day care for a few hours each day during the week. There is so much to do to get her there in morning, and then when she goes, I have beds, vacuuming, laundry, dishes, etc to take of before I can go out. She is back in a few hours and there is more to take care of then. I need to make some friends and get a life, right now it just revolves around her needs. I don't know anyone here and feel very isolated. Thanks

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Hi , I am new here. I am caring for a wife with dementia and maybe alzheimers for six years. I am very frustrated , but now know i am not alone. I would like to chat with some ladies in same boat as me. thanks so much
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I had belonged to some knitting groups when I first got my own apartment some six years ago. It gave me something to look forward to, and I had the opportunity to meet people. I think I ought to consider going back.
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I am in rural West Virginia, US and there are no groups here to get involved with.Except for the historical group.What about the school? They might need volunteers.Is there a garden group?
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Thanks for your there are ideas, no support groups in Tralee, odd, Ireland has such an enormous issues with people with dementia, shall continue to look and ask around. Sunflo2 I will do more while mom is home and free myself up for my time, thanks for reminding me to do that. I am not a religious person, spiritual yes, religious no. Caphardass, funny, have had my fill of your kind of those kind of peeps, LOL, something more inbetween may do the trick for me.
Debra, glad you are hanging in there, and I do relate to what you said about now having the free time and being at the computer. You are just so used to being home, it will take time but you will get out again. Reminds me of flies caught in a jar for days, then the lid is lifted and they don't want to leave, LOL.
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I'll try to add:
1. Do you have local church where they may have "visitors" that will come and spend a couple hrs with her once a week?
2. Can you do some of the work while she is home so that when she is out a respite - you can go out and do something fun yourself?
3. Can you start a book group, card group, movie night at your house where you can invite some neighbors?
4. Is there a neighbor or other family member that might come over one evening a week so you can take a class or attend a club meeting?
5. Consider joining an Alz or Dementia support group; ask them for some ideas; this can be very isolating.
6. Can you volunteer at a Senior center and meet others there while your mother is there? Sometimes they have exercise, craft, game groups that you might enjoy while your mother is occupied with another activity.

Would it be possible to get some in-home help (at least with the chores) so you get a little break?
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I know how you feel. I felt so isolated after having mom home with me...I would get out a time or too with my best friend. Mostly after mom when to bed at night. But it was hard. I couldn't attend church, barely spend any time at the store..had to rush. My mother inlaw was my back up and she lived next door..so if I had to go anywhere I made sure she would be home. It's weird though....I have the freedom now but here I sit at my computer instead. Good luck and god bless you. I pray for better days for you.
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Madeaa, does your mother attend religious meetings? Can you go with her? Eventually if they get used to you, they might accept you. How about volunteer to help out the hospital during the times she's not home? Check out the community newspaper or bulletin board and see if you can participate on an upcoming event..
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Try attending Alzheimers/Dementia meetings, meet a friend or two then transition to meeting for lunch,shopping etc. Also our public library has Ti Chi(sp), coffee clubs etc which has some stellar people mostly women attending.
Best of luck. Best of Luck Friends keep you healthy.
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