How can my father get the care and support he needs if neither my husband nor I can enter his house due to a smoke allergy and he is non-compliant with the doctors?
My husband and I are allegic to cig. smoke. Our doc. have told us not to enter my dad's home anymore. My dad is also noncompliant w/doctor. have NOT taken over control of his life. We saved him from losing his home in April. In his chart he is considered noncompliant with meds/diet/and other physician's orders, including wear his cast for a broken foot, and the use of a walker to keep the weight off of it.
He is also diabetic, High blood pressure. Our own physicians have asked us not to go in the house due to the extensive second hand smoke. I go right into an asthma attack, my husand's reaction is shorter with each visit. He was abusive as a father, and still is. He treats my husband differently. ME, he introduces as his "mascot" or "the bitch"..
He will leave the food we buy untouched. His blood sugar levels are down now, so this is not his excuse for his behavior. I try to help, he gets what is needed, then turns on me. I walked away from him three years ago for this reason. I walked back in when I found he was about to lose his home.
there are NO support groups around here!