What happens when you call adult protective services?

I had P0A first and twice my middle sister had my dad revoke my power of ATTORNEY and had him turn it over to her can she do this to me . he has some dementia I feel she took advantage of him what can I do? plus she will not allow him to speak to me . what are my rights she wont allow him to see me.

Don't, under any circumstances, call adult protective services. They are awful. I don't know how to advise you to deal with your mother's problems, but APS will only make matters worse. I know, having cared for my aging parents until their deaths, and having a blind sister who needs in home care. APS can turn the normal aging process into a criminal charge, and I mean that. Do your best as a family to care for each other. Try to get a little help from neighbors. Be very careful who you let into your house My very best wishes to you.

An "anonymous" person (turned out to be my sister-in-law), called protective services for my parents. It was a godsend! They sent an investigator to their home, insisted on coming in and did an interview/inspection. He saw that my elderly mother needed help in several areas. She was the sole caregiver for my father who was a stroke survivor. They set her up with a housekeeper that came in twice a week, a bath aid for my dad (mom didn't need one) and a companion that would come in twice a week to help with errands, dr. appts., cooking, cleaning or just sitting and reminiscing. She would just take mom out shopping or movies or whatever to get her out of the house. They also set them up with meals. I cannot tell you what it meant to me (I live 250 miles away) just to know that someone was able to "put eyes on them" and make sure they were ok. If any of the helpers saw that things were not ok, they would report it to their case manager and she would get them help. They would send out a nurse or whatever the case may be. It was just such a positive experience for us. It definately enabled my parents to live independently, in their own home. Good luck to you!

Thank you all for your responses! I was really down when no one answered my posts and had given up, so I am so glad to see your responses. It is concerning to me that it seems experiences with APS run the gamut - it could be a godsend to call them or it could make things worse. No guarantees I guess. My mother would pass any competence test and she is a good "showtimer" so there's no way I would get guardianship at this point. If APS inspected her home though they would see the problems, but if she is forced to accept aid based on how her relationship has always been with me she will cut me out of her life in a New York minute. So if I do bring in outsiders it has to be completely necessary and the only option left. Someone above wrote about how she would "get over it" not this woman...she still holds grudges for when I hurt her feelings back when I was five years old. There are deep issues between us that existed long before she became elderly and they complicate things now. If there were any relative who she were willing to respect and listen to, any doctor, any clergy....well I'd be begging them to help right now. But there is no one and she is a force unto herself. And maybe that was okay when she could manage better, but I fear a showdown is coming.

My family went thru this. Adult protective service sent us a letter and a copy of the law. The told us what was expected, Mom to have 24/7 care in home or facility and that each person was responsible and would be held liable if we did not put this in place. No discussion with APS just the letter of the law.

I can't believe noone has answered you on this question. It happens all the time. I've just retired and I have the same concerns for my parents as well as my next door neighbor. Don't know all the answers yet, but I'll tell you about some recent activity. I went to call on my neighbor when she stopped coming out and her car stayed in same spot on driveway for days on end. Neighbor spoke of feeling weak, hungry, tired, dizzy. The inside of her home needed more than just a cleaning, the food in the fridge was beyond safe looking, and there were problems with plumbing. Called Elder Services who sent someone and then sent local police. Police tried to convince neighbor she needed to be seen by a doctor, but she would have no part of that. Police came to my door and asked if I thought I could convince her of need for medical attention. Although we'd only met a few times, she agreed if I would guarantee her a ride home. Went with her and they decided she needed blood; more than just a little, so kept her for a day or so. During that time Police told me they were recommending she would be unsafe back in her home, and I called a brother out of state. That was over a month ago. Neighbor came home a few days later. I never saw any relatives or visitors at the house, and I haven't seen any activity that looks like cleanup of minor or major. Basically, it looks as though she gets to call the shots on how much help or care she will get herself or accept from others. Call her local Senior Center and maybe there are volunteers who could go by and establish a positive working relationship. and good luck.

My Mother has Dementia and she refuses to have any help, anyone that comes to her house she just sends them away her memory is getting worse so she is neglecting herself and the house little by little, I live 13 hrs away and tried different ways to help her but nothing works. I don't know if I should call A P S or not. This is really upsetting to me.

is she compentent, if not you can go to court and get power of attorney, that way you call the shots, she will be mad at first but will get over it, I am power of attorney and medical power of attorney for my mom, hope this helps

I live in Oklahoma , Mother was a recent widow and just diag. with dementia. My brother swooped in took advantage of the sitiuation. He is alcoholic, unable to work,smoked like a chimmny (Mom has empyhsema). He and his wife became squaters. He took Mom to the bank to get my Mom to get money out of her account and the bank would call me ( I did have POA). I called APS several times ,they when out and ck'd things out, my brother put on a good show. APS told me my Mom would have to end up in dire strraights before any action could be taken she would have to be ill, injured or something. I end up getting an attorney,getting gaurdinship,eviction notice - to get my brother out and restrain order to keep him away from both my and I. So POA ,guardingship and my experience Drs. don't generally want to get involve although if u have POA u can get medical records. Good luck!

I have some experience with Adult Protective because I managed a senior mobile home park for awhile. They don't get involved unless there is serious neglect or abuse present and there are no family members who can work on getting help. If your mother is neglecting to clean the house, the food is 10 years out of date, she throws her kids out, refuses or confuses necessary meds, goes down the basement stairs to do the wash even though she can barely stand up, you are, unfortunately now in the company of millions of other very frustrated children. Power of Attorney is helpful, (if she signs for it) but limited, and you have to have the guts to make tough decisions and stand by them while she slams the door in your face. She isn't doing anything illegal and even though you may be shocked at her behavior, you have almost no power until she injures herself. Isn't that wonderful?

The only way you can get legal control of her is to petition the courts for guardianship (Conservatorship) and my mother's lawyer has already warned me that they don't get involved unless the elder is facing "imminent" eviction or medical crisis. As has already been mentioned, it can take years even if you qualify. The courts and the doctors are focused on protecting the "rights" of the elderly and unfortunately for the caregivers, their "rights" can destroy our health, sanity, finances and even our physical safety.

You are powerless until they are powerless. What a world.