When my brother & his wife started taking care of my Mother he kept me informed about her health and finances. Then later on when he would mention any thing having to do with finances or the sale of Mom's house it would become an argument if I had an opinion about what was being done. Then a month ago we had a disagreement about the sale of Mom's house and the way the realtor was handling it.
The real estate deal he was getting involved in was very odd. The realtor was representing the buyer as well as my brother along with asking my brother to pay the closing costs for the buyer. I really felt this was not proper and when I said that we should put the house with another realtor my brother became very angry and has not talked to me since. My sister-in-law is answering the phone when I call to talk to my Mother which I do nightly.
I am very concerned about what is happening. The house and her Social Security is all she has and he has power of attorney and is on her checking account. He also told me Mom had made a new will and he took her to her attorney to take care of it. This is the statement he made "when I saw what Mom was writing I told her that was not fair and do you really didnt want to do that" He then said "When I took her to the attorney I asked the attorney to talk to her about it." Then he told me later that "it was taken care of and that he has the checking account."
I called Mom's attorney and spoke with the secretary. She did tell me that the attorney talks with my Mom alone. That relieved some of my anxiety but I just don't know what to do. I have been pushed out of my Mother's life except for
my phone calls. I also have to make an appointment to see her when I am able to come to visit. I live 200 miles away and am on social security myself so monies are tight for me and I can't visit as often as I'd like.
It has turned into a nightmare. I just don't know what to do or if I can do
Mom is 94, fairly good health, extremely forgetful, asks same questions over and over during our phone visits, but no major health problems, walks with a walker, sometimes depressed and becomes aggitated easily if she gets to tired.<p/>