What is best for my dad, nursing home or home care?
My father is 89 and is in poor health. He has been in and out of hospitals since August. He had 2 heart attacks, was given a pacemaker, then was sent to rehab. He came home and then withing 2 weeks, he was back in hospital with another heart attack and very weak..Was told he was losing blood, but to this day, no one can determine where he is losing blood. He goes to hospital, rehab, home and within 3 weeks the cycle begins again. Right now, my siblings and I are trying to care for him. But, he has been having accidents at home falling, bruising his arm up and putting gashes in his head. He has heart disease, diabetes, COPD, and congestive heart failure..and now may be in beginning dementia. My siblings are trying to keep him from going into a nursing home, so the house won't be sold for his care. He receives soc sec and retirement, plus has some savings. But, I get the feeling they would rather risk his health than spend the money it would take to make sure he is cared for. I have been pushing for home care with at least one shift being a skilled nurse. But they are fighting me on it, saying it will cost too much. What can I do to explain to them he needs better care from what we can offer him. I believe he may be able to live longer if given proper care. I don't want to cause a ruckus with my family, but I feel compelled to make sure he is cared for. By the way I am the youngest with 10 years separating me from the next child. So my opinion has never been taken seriously. Any help or advise is appreciated.