I have so much trouble with my elderly parents that I hardly know where to begin and to make matters worse my siblings do nothing to help. It has gotten to the point that seeing my parents is something I almost dread. My one sister moved away years ago because of the treatment we received from my Dad...verbally and mentally abusive, controlling, alcoholic, etc. My other sister also moved away but has never admitted why. Now she is extremely obcessive, compulsive and controlling herself. My brother lives in our same town but had nothing to do with my Dad for years. Now he does at least talk to him again. He has very little to do with me. When I told his wife I did not know if I could take care of everything any more, she said my brother would not help and that I had no idea what it was like for him to live with my Dad when he was young!?! Hello! I lived there too! To make matters worse my parents constantly choose to pacify my brother and sisters often at my expense. I am certain they do this because they do not want to alleinate (sp) them more or upset them and they know I will always be here no matter what. For example, this year for Father's Day I waited till the end of the week, on Friday, to invite them to dinner on Sunday night to give my brother plenty of time to invite them. Friday night he had said nothing to them yet so I invited Mom and Dad. Sunday afternoon my Mom called and said my brother just called and invited them to dinner so we would have to get together another time! I was so hurt. We were out of town but came back as soon as we could and went for ice cream so I could see them on Father's Day. One time when my Dad told me he could not see, walk or eat any more and could not get into his doctor I got him into my doctor. He was upset with the diagnosis and was furious with me. The doctor after 4 days of tests, which I took him to, said there was nothing wrong with him. He suggested he see a mental health doctor and get medication to help him deal with the issues in his life. He did not talk to me for days. Another time after my Mom had been in the hospital for three weeks Dad told me he no longer wanted me in their lives! Mom said she could no longer do all of her house keeping and wanted a cleaning lady. I offered to help them find someone. That was all it took. My parents are very wealthy people so it was not an issue of them being able to afford it. I know better than to think I can do the cleaning for them because it would be disasterous. Just last month my brother's son wanted to buy something and so did my son. They each bought half of it. My parents told me they did not want my son in their house ever again. My son should have let my brother's son buy it all. That time I finally said something. I had enough and told them that they have treated me like this for years and I put up with it but that I would not put up with them treating my children that way! They had no clue! I felt terrible for saying anything but I know it had to be said. Anyway, I will continue to be a good daughter and help as long as I can because I have accepted the fact that things will probably not change for me. But I do not want to act the same way they are acting when I get old. I read so many letters here about people with terrible issues as they try to handle their aging parents. I do not want to be like that. We have nursing home insurance, I keep a journal, pray and have already talked to my kids about this. What else can I do? Thanks for listening to me. Sometimes it just helps to put my thoughts down on paper.