How do I know if my mom is "pushing my buttons?" People at the ALF say she is?
Mom is 91 ,broke her hip so we were able to place her in an ALF for "rehab"
She has moderate dementia. At her home she was living independently. However she developed fixed illusions, hallucinations, paranoia, didn't take all her meds,angry at neighbors, would sleep in her car at night,,calling police..all over the past 4 years there. I would love to keep her in the ALF but she hates it and yells to go home constantly.
She has been there 6 weeks and verbally abuses me ...GUILT!!.. for not taking her home! She is safe there, eating well but her mental anguish is extreme. She is on a low dose of anti-anxiety. She will not participate in activities. I feel so torn.