I am an informal caretaker for my best friend who is suffering with terminal lung cancer. Things are't looking good, and I need their help with things I can't do like a will, power of attorney, healthcare decisions, etc. All of them live in the sane state, but don't seem to be helping. They can afford it, don't have kids, and offer telephone support only. I'm getting frustrated. I can only do so much without losing my job!