How can I appease my father? He wants constant attention...NOW. And nobody can do anything right.
My dad is 83 and had his leg amputated from poor circulation 2 years ago. After rehab, he was able to come home and could transfer himself to a wheelchair etc and only had home healthcare come in 3x a week for physical therapy and baths. He was doing great. He also lives with my mother, so he is not alone, but she cannot lift him. In the fall he started developing more health problems. He is no longer able to put weight on his remaining leg, has congestive heart failure and his leg from foot to thigh is swollen, his heart is only working at 30% efficiency, and he is getting aspirated pneumonia from food going into his lungs. So we put him in a nursing home for rehab as he fell once and then kept calling the police because he "needed help now.". But he is not progressing. He calls 911 whenever he can get a phone and demands to go to the hospital, he threatens everywhere he is at that he is going to call the police, he's going to sue them, etc. He says he is not getting the care he needs and being refused his rights. The hospital doesn't want to transfer him to the commode because of the danger to both him and staff, as he had an incident where his foot slipped, hit equipment, and tore his toenail off--of course he threatened to sue. The staff at the Nursing Home is sometimes short-handed and one person (woman) cannot move him so they use a hydraulic lifter, which he hates; says it hurts and you can hear him yelling in his room. Now he is demanding to come home. He would need 24 hour care and even with that, one person cannot lift him, nor do I think they would put up with his shenanigans. He is out of control. The hospital just called today and said they are trying to do the best for him. it is just chaos with him and anyone he comes in contact with that works at the hospital or nursing home. I know this is just because he has nothing left to control in his life and he is lashing out. He doesn't want to be "left in the bed to just die." Not for sure what to do at this point. it's frustrating for my mom, me, my other siblings won't have anything to do with him; and I'm afraid that he will get thrown out of the nursing home with his demands. He wants constant attention...NOW. And nobody can do anything right. He has been in the nursing home since early December. He's gone to the hospital at least 7 times since mid November...at 3 times since he's been in the Nursing Home. One time 2 x in 24 hrs!