My mom's anger from Alzheimer's Disease is getting worse, specifically when we discuss her inability to drive. How do I deal with it?
Mom is angry about all of it
Mom, 83 with significant AD per the doctors hasn't driven since June as I have seen to it. She has already forgotten the previous talk we had about her driving abilities and getting lost and my taking care of her since she has lived with me now since May '10. Today once again after our talk she tried to go to her car to go to the store for a laxative which the DR said she cannot have (doctors orders) and I asked her not to drive. She stormed threw her purse down and stormed out to the porch and sat. In a few minutes she came back in, picked up her purse, walked to her room (which is a bedroom, bathroom small kitchen area built onto house) and threw her purse into the air towards the ceiling and went to her room.
I let her have alone a little bit to cool off and then went talked to her about it trying to mostly listen, not trying to convince her of anything, not talking just listening and then sharing my concern for her safety and others while deriving. She blew up at me saying I wasn't trusting her and why would I think she can't do it any more she has been driving her whole life? I said none of us are young anymore and she had medical issues plus the AD I tried to explain due to the AD and she has got lost a few times that I didn't feel safe with her driving and that I love her and don't want anything to happen to her. She blew up some more saying she only got lost once (it's been several times but I didn't even go there and tell her) she told me I don't trust her. She asked how I knew she had AD and I said the Dr diagnosed her and she said that dr is crazy!!! On and on she went………… how do you deal with the anger in AD people when it happens? She has good days and bad days but the bad days are getting more frequent and more anger filled with throwing things