Husband feels abandoned when I stopped helping mother (feeding, cleaning her, laundry, house cleaning, dishes, taking her to therapy) for over four to five years but it just became too much for me with four kids, a full time job, and in school for a doctorate degree.
She has a caregiver that comes in for six hours per day primarily during the week and sometimes on Saturday. The majority of the weekend care fell to me because my husband had to work.
As a side note I have been taking care of people who were either sick or dying since I was 18. I feel burned out.
I told him I did not want to do it anymore. Now he feels I have abandoned her Should I feell guilty? When my mother was sick I did not ask him to help me - especially cleaning her and trying to move her (she is a very heavy woman). I need some advice!