My 86 yr old mother lives next door, but is declining. Afraid to leave her alone - stove, thermostat, etc. Looking at larger home to move into and she can live downstairs separate but together with my husband and 13 yr old. Will have to get a 30 yr mortgage. We both work full time. I am 50, husband 45. Don't know if it is the right thing, but she does not want to go to supportive living. I grew up with my grandma living with us. She lived to be 103. I do not know what to do! Any suggestions would be appreciated. Am extremely stressed. No siblings. She is not the easiest to live with, at that "me"stage, but that is ok. Thoughts?