Should tell my mother that we are in the process of renting or selling her condo?
My mother is in a Rehab/Conv. hospital because she fell three times within a month's period at the AL where she she had been living for a little less than a year. We were hoping to move her back to her condo after her stroke a year ago, but her health has been steadily declining. She needs a walker; she has aphasia and dysphasia, and an MRI showed she is permanently impaired cognitively. She seems somewhat alert in the a.m.; but sundowning takes place in the p.m. She has hearing difficulties, and has not been involved in activities outside of her immediate family for a few years. She always eats her dessert first and refuses to eat her vegies which has resulted in constipation problems; we used to take her to the ER on a regular basis. She has not had problems since being at the Rehab because they do not give her coffee and have had her cut way back on the medications she was prescribed while at the AL. She has a new doctor that makes calls to the Rehab/Conv on a regular basis. So the Rehab/Conv is a good match at this time and probably for the long-term.
Everytime we come to see my mother she asks us when she will be discharged and be able to go home..We try to disengage and redirect the conversation; not always an easy task. The Rehab/Conv. costs $1500 more than her AL and we think it best to rent or sell her current home, and use the assets for further care.. But should we talk to her about it? Will it make her more depressed? agitated? When she was at the AL she became agitated and left twice without checking out and wandered about asking strangers to take her home. We do not want to be the cause of further agitation. I do want to be honest with her though in all of our dealings with her. Is there a right answer to this? I feel strange renting or selling her property without her involvement and going behind her back. Thanks for your input.