Mother doesn't grasp that her incontinence problem is unsanitary and doesn't clean up her accidents when we are in public. What should I do?
My mother doesn't grasp that her incontinence problem is unsanitary. If she has an accident, "nobody notices." She must have early dementia. Some days, she is "with it" and will go to the bathroom, change her Depends when they are wet and take care of herself. Other days, she will tell me nothing is wrong when she is soaked! She sits the chairs, sofa and thinks nothing of it. This happens when she is at her home, out shopping or dining out. I make her go to the bathroom as soon as we get anyplace, but sometime she refuses saying she "doesn't have to go." Last Saturday, she had loose stools along with urine before I could get her to the restroom. She wanted to finish her lunch and said "Nobody noticed anything." I know I didn't want to finish my lunch! I carry extra clothing, wipes, Depends and still something will throw me for a loop. I want to take my mother out and enjoy being with her, but it has really become a challenge.