My auntie is having money stolen from her by her neighbors. What should we do?

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Call the police or the equivalent of Adult Protective Services in your state.
Do research first and try and prove it. You'll have to do this first anyway for the authorities. Seek out "all the facts" first. Take notes, find names, documentations, times, methods, etc. You will be asked to do this anyway for the authorities.
My 88 year old mother was in a nursing home recovering from a broken hip and she and her room mate were always claiming their stuff was stollen. But each time we eventually found all items.
Many older seniors feel alone and their mind starts to play games with themselves. My suggestion is try to find what exactly is missing and do a Very Good Search for the Money or items. If you cant find where it is, by all means do not nesitate and call the police, or Adult Protective Services. Good luck.
Call Adult Protective Services in the town she lives in as soon as possible. If you can get your auntie in an assisted living facility or with family that would be good as well. Good luck. I just went through this as well. It's a nightmare. Just remember it's only money. Your auntie's well being is more important.
Does someone have Power of Attorney over finances or can your aunt appoint someone to handle her finances, or give check writing privileges / give permission to a trusted family member, so that she does not have money at home? Also, your aunt should not leave her home unlocked or allow any unfamiliar persons into her home. If she has dementia, she may be allowing persons into her home that she does not know, but they make it sound like she should know them or they are from a place that is familiar to her, but in reality they are strangers that should not be there. If she does have money at home, she should not mention to anyone that she has money, or where it is. Sometimes seniors get too familiar with their caregivers or maintenance men, and can be taken advantage of. If her Social Security checks or other checks are being sent to her verses direct-deposited into a bank account, then direct deposit should be arranged. If she does not have a bank account, and some seniors do not have bank accounts, then she should sign up for a checking or a savings account, and allow a trusted family member to have check writing privileges for her.
Sunshine, there are, sadly, only two kinds of things in the world: Things you have control over and things you don't. As long as she lives alone and lacks the awareness to lock out neighborhood thieves, there's nothing you can do. Having her move in with you will solve the problem, but if you aren't ready for the many consequences of that, the solution will just create more problems. I suspect this thieving issue is just one of many heartbreaking details of your aunt's situation. You can expect any solution that solves the problem to be a real challenge. Good luck.
When my mom moved in 2 years ago to my home, cleaning her home i found many things missing. i think i didnt know how bad she was getting. i chalk it up. if someone needs to "rob" someone that doesnt understand......then nothing good will happen to the robber. what goes around does come around.

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